Words. We are obsessed with them. We add new words to the dictionary every year. Singers, songwriters, and Rap stars publish whatever is on their minds. Their lyrics intrigue us. Most comedians we enjoy have gimmicks having to do with word play. We watch late night talk shows... (need I say more?). We even play Words with Friends on our iphones. Words in statuses and tweets are what we follow. We read daily blogs (see? you are doing it now), newspapers, and books. And I can't forget to mention that in our language today there are no words that are off limits...even the not so classy ones are thrown about like a beach ball. But what does it all mean?
Are any of the words we see, hear, read, or say of truth? Are there actions that follow?
Or are words only words and nothing more?
All of this can confuse a girl. It can pretty tiresome when our environments are constantly gabbing. Especially when us women over analyze every single word we see, hear, read, or say. I know I get exhausted because I have the memory of an elephant and remember most every word spoken, heard, or read that I come across. This makes it incredibly hard to move on from the past sometimes.
I am POSITIVE I am not the only girl who frequents the familiar phrase: "but he told me..."
"but he told me..." that we would be together forever...
"but he told me..."that he would always love me...
"but he told me..." that we would get married someday...
"but he told me..."that he would never cheat on me...
The sad part is they probably really meant these things at the time when they said them.
But so did Mr. Married when he took his vows...and then cheated on his wife a few years later.
So where is the line drawn? Obvi... we are aware that Mr. Married is a total loser if he broke his vows. But we should just forget about all those things he promised us and get over it because we weren't married to them, right? No
Aren't words supposed to be a vow of action? Especially in love? Well that is what God says. In 1 John 3:18 it says "dear children, let us not love in word or talk but in action and in truth."
I once had a man tell me that he would lasso me the moon if I wanted it. Luckily I have never had a real desire for the moon to be a lovely decoration in my household, therefore I never asked him get it for me.
He also told me... "I'll never ever ever stop loving you. I'll love you even after the sun stops shining. Even after the moon stops glowing. Even after the grass stops growing. Even after the rain stops falling. Even after the sea stops calling. I'll never ever cease loving you." (Now that's romance, eh?)
He said this to me...but did he really mean it? Will he always continue loving me? I guess we will just have to see what happens when the sun no longer shines, the moon no longer glows, the grass no longer grows, the rain no longer falls, and the sea no longer calls. I wish he had included something like...and "when we are done with college" because honestly I don't wanna wait until the sun stops shining.
Thumper had it all figured out. "if you can't say somethin' nice, don't say nothin' at all" ....wait...I don't think that's quite it. Let's go with a little modification... "if you can't back up somethin' with actions, don't say nothin' at all"...yeah thats it.
If you can't DO it...don't SAY you can.
I am just as guilty of my actions not always backing up my words. I am really trying to work on that. I always try to go with the whole "actions speak louder than words" deal.